Whether you immigrated when you were 12, were born in the U.S., or came over so early you barely remember your birth country, none of that matters. We all know the drill, the "ching chong, chink" slurs thrown at you in the school hallways, the assumption that you're from China, the guessing game that follows if … Continue reading to love a self
I've had multiple conversations with people during which I realized they don't know what a lot of symptoms of mental illness looks like. And if I hadn't both witnessed as well as experienced them myself, I wouldn't have known either. For the longest time, I thought these behaviors were unique to me, or worse, character … Continue reading “I’m fine;” the mentally not-okay mind
If you didn't already know, racism isn't just violence, hate crimes, slurs, or other forms of explicit discrimination. And for the purposes of this post, it isn't just recognizable microaggressions either. It can operate as innocently as choosing who to sit next to, or forgetting to invite certain people to an event. People know that exclusion is … Continue reading We’re Not Friends
I love you so much. I want these to be one of the first words you ever hear because I was not brave enough to exchange them with my own mother until I was 18. I will try my best to raise you with Vietnamese. I know that at times you may not find it something to … Continue reading Dear Daughter,
There are some really great writings on anti-Blackness in Asian and Asian American communities that reassure me I'm not alone in my thoughts and experiences. This is one of my favorites. (I love the author; seriously- go read more of Kim Tran's stuff.) I would also recommend this article that better explains the link between the model … Continue reading Why appropriate?